I think possibly since he was worried I would have a nervous breakdown (and I well might have) Richard has decided to post pone his trip to Walter Reed until March. I am happy with this for a few reasons, most of all because that means he will be here during all the crazy stuff we have going on in December.
It is hard sometimes when you are in the military, so many decisions are out of your hands, you quit literally get told what you will do and when, so when there is an opportunity to make a decision on your own it is nice, I guess that is how I saw this whole DC ordeal, I needed him to choose to be here with me, he needed me to tell him what I needed, somehow we managed to figure that out, after many days of I am barely speaking and when I am it is full of tears and depression, I feel better, he feels better and it helped us get some other things out, lead us to making some other major decisions that we needed to talk about.
The biggest being we have finally set a retirement date, we had been tentatively thinking off October 2012 since that is when he basically has to retire unless he promotes again, now we have decided he is going to put in his packet now asking to retire one year earlier so October of 2011, he will have done 22 years by then, long enough we think, given all that has happened in the last year I think we are ready to go somewhere we choose to go and to feel like we are building a life someplace we can stay. The girls are getting older and will be in high school so we would like them to be someplace they do not have to worry about having to move from, we would like to buy a house and not still be paying on it when we are 80! So it feels like the time is right, it is a scary and exciting decision, the Army has been good to him and to me as well, there are definite positives to the life style but I look forward to the next step.
Of course he has to request retirement, they can say no, he could be promoted in January and then we would have to re evaluate again but for now it is nice to be making plans and looking at all our options
I am so glad he will be there for the trial and Christmas and all. It is really hard to do that all alone, and sometimes just talking makes all the difference in the world. I am glad things worked out for you. Hope you make it to a place you love.
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